Comparison

#1 and i were invited to a mutual friend's 39th birthday party last week. i warned her that people would be drinking there and allowed her to make the choice. She chose to go.

There was drinking (and some drunkeness) and some Cuban cigar smoking... but also pizza, soda, good conversation, dancing... and major silliness!

#1 chose not to be utterly silly, which was fine. She danced, had a few good conversations and enjoyed the evening overall. We left well after 1am.